Hi, I’m Katherine,
Your Guide from Overwhelm to Empowerment.
I’m a Trauma Recovery and Empowerment Coach, a Habit Change Specialist, and a generational trauma breaker.
As a survivor of abuse and sexual assault, I experienced firsthand what it’s like to feel disconnected from my truth, stuck in cycles of overwhelm, unsure if I'd ever feel normal again.
But here's what I've learned:
Healing isn’t just surviving—it’s learning what safety feels like.
It’s finding your voice and using it without shame.
It’s rewiring your old operating system to respond from clarity, not reactivity; self-trust, not shame; and love, not fear.
And it happens faster with guidance.
My own transformation didn’t come in one “aha” moment. It came from rewriting my story, one pattern at a time. I learned to regulate my nervous system, challenge old beliefs, and build a life that feels joyful.
I tried it alone for a decade, piecing together lessons from therapists, books, and strangers’ advice.
Only to realize how much faster I could have healed if someone had just handed me the right tools upfront.
Now, I’ve distilled a decade of hard-won insight into a 6-month program: the exact guide I needed when I was figuring it out alone. My mission is to help women create the joyful life they never thought possible.
Beyond my coaching, my journey of healing and growth shaped my passions. I’m a curious traveler, lifelong learner, and tea-and-books lover with my partner. I'm also a student of Eastern philosophies and cognitive sciences, and I find joy in hiking, mystery series, and cozy moments.
I draw inspiration from thought leaders like Sadhguru, Mel Robbins, and Gabor Maté, but even more from the courageous women I coach, who choose healing, truth, and freedom every single day.
If you’re ready to join these women and break free from overwhelm,
rewrite your story,
and step into a life of radical joy and accountability,
I’m here to walk beside you.
13 years of experience in behavioral sciences
5 years as a trauma-informed educator and teacher
3 years as an AC Accredited coach with 300+ hours of practice
Survivor of trauma and sexual assault, driving my mission to empower women
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Re-write your story through personalized coaching and reclaim your power.
Step into self-trust and authenticity— watch your relationships and life transform.
If you're ready to create a more empowered life for yourself guided by love, courage, growth—I'd be honored to walk beside you.
KataVita isn’t just a name, it’s a philosophy and a commitment to living with purpose, authenticity, and courage.
"KataVita” blends Latin and Eastern wisdom to reflect a life lived intentionally.
“Kata” comes from Japanese martial arts, where it represents a system of practice—not just movement, but the philosophy and values behind it. It’s about training, discipline, and mastery of both body and mind.
“Vita” is Latin for life, and it’s also an homage to Katherine’s grandmother, Victoria Lay, who was known as “Vita.”
Together, KataVita means living with authenticity, courage, and alignment—choosing love over fear, presence over perfection, and practicing life well. It’s about rewriting your story, breaking generational cycles, and turning pain into purpose.
For trauma recovery, KataVita embodies the idea that healing isn’t a destination, it’s a practice. It’s learning to navigate life with confidence, trust your instincts, and create a life that feels joyful, safe, and intentional. At KataVita Coaching, we help you build that practice, so you can look back and know you lived your life well.
Therapy helps you understand your past. Coaching helps you build your future. Both support healing, they just work differently.
Therapy looks backward, into how past experiences and trauma shape you now. It's essential for diagnosing mental health conditions, providing clinical care, and supporting anyone in crisis or facing severe symptoms that disrupt daily life. If that's where you are, therapy is the right place to start.
Coaching works in the present. It's about taking ownership of what you can control, releasing what you can't, and taking real steps toward the life you want. We may look at the root of a pattern for clarity, but the focus stays on reshaping habits, reframing beliefs, and building a life that fits who you're becoming.
The relationship is different too. In therapy, the therapist is the expert. In coaching, you're the expert on your life, and I'm your guide.
Coaching is the right fit if you:
- Have done therapy but still feel stuck in the same patterns
- Are ready to move past processing and into real tools and actions for lasting change
- Found that talking about it just wasn't enough
- Don't like the "our time is up" model and want more support between sessions
If you've done the therapy and still feel caught in old cycles, that's exactly what the Breakthrough Program is built for. It gives you the tools and accountability to turn insight into action.
Lasting change doesn't happen overnight. It takes practice, repetition, and time.
Your brain doesn't swap an old pattern for a new one on command. New ways of thinking grow stronger only when you practice them, again and again, with support along the way.
Think of it like a dirt path. The more you walk it, the deeper it wears in. To change direction, you walk the new way over and over, long enough for the old path to grow over. That's how a new pattern becomes your default.
Six months gives you the space to:
- Practice new habits until they hold
- Get consistent guidance and accountability
- Reach the old patterns at the root and change them there
A weekend workshop can spark insight. Six months is what turns insight into a life that actually feels different, one that holds when things get hard.
Healing from trauma isn’t a straight line, it’s an upward spiral. Some days feel like regression; others feel like breakthroughs. But when you look back, you’ll see progress you never thought possible.
The myth of “being done” or “being normal” sets us up for failure. Healing isn’t a destination; it’s a lifelong skill set. When the body repairs a cut, the wound heals by growing new cells, just as we grow new strengths after every challenge.
This isn’t about being happy all the time or avoiding hardship. It’s about choosing how you respond instead of reacting from old patterns. You reclaim your power when you realize your past doesn’t control your future.
You get to decide:
- How you show up in the world
- What emotions guide your daily life
- What patterns you break and which ones you keep
- Where you invest your energy
At KataVita Coaching, we focus on nervous system regulation, identity shifts, and habit change, not just processing pain, but building the tools to face whatever comes next with clarity, courage, and self-trust.
Rebuilding self-trust is a process, and it’s important to focus on your past wins and give yourself more credit than you might be used to.
Even when you feel like you’ve made a mistake, remember: at the time, with the information you had, you made the decision you thought was best for you. Your responses weren’t failures, they were your body and mind trying to protect you.
Self-trust isn’t rebuilt by rushing or judging yourself harshly. It grows when you release judgment and criticism, understand that you’re doing the best you can, and trust that you’re capable of growth.
In the past, you’ve done your best with what you knew. Now that you know better, you can do better, and having faith in that is what lays the foundation for lasting trust.
This isn’t a race. Every step, every small victory, and every moment of self-compassion counts. At KataVita Coaching, we help you build this trust through nervous system regulation, identity shifts, and habit change, so your healing becomes second nature.
You keep attracting toxic people because you’re waiting for someone else to love you the way you deserve. This is often rooted in who you believe you are.
If you’ve experienced a string of relationships that started full of promise but quickly spiraled into the same toxic patterns, you’re not alone. Often, it begins with the hope that “this time will be different”, until the same red flags appear: avoidance, dishonesty, control, and emotional unavailability.
Maybe it’s the rollercoaster of inconsistent communication, excuses, guilt-tripping, or the way your needs are dismissed. The signs are familiar: a partner who only talks about themselves, reacts poorly to boundaries, or plays the victim when confronted.
But here’s the deeper truth: the issue isn’t the men you’re choosing, it’s the love you’re not giving yourself.
Many women stay in cycles of toxic relationships because they’ve tied their worth to "fixing" others, dating "potential", or think being treated right happens by "proving" their value through sacrifice.
Rather than recognizing their inherent worth, and immediately walking away from those not willing to put in the effort.
Deep down, if you don’t believe you deserve safety, respect, and love, you’ll keep accepting less.
Breaking the cycle starts with rebuilding your self-worth from the inside out. That means:
- Learning to value yourself unconditionally
- Setting boundaries without guilt
- Recognizing that your needs matter just as much as anyone else’s
- Healing the belief that love must be earned or that you’re only lovable if you “fix” someone else
And here’s a step most people don’t talk about: learning to be attracted to relationships that reflect your worth. It’s not just about attracting safe people, but feeling drawn to them.
Healing from trauma often means learning to recognize that safety, consistency, and respect aren’t boring, they’re the foundation of real connection.
At KataVita Coaching, we help you rewrite these patterns, rebuild confidence, and create the foundation for relationships that honor your true self.
Understanding the distinction between a toxic relationship and an abusive relationship is the first step in seeking the right support for your healing journey.
A toxic relationship is marked by unhealthy patterns like poor communication, constant criticism, and a lack of support. These relationships can leave you feeling drained, unappreciated, and stuck in cycles of negativity. A trauma recovery coach can help you recognize these patterns, set boundaries, and develop healthier communication and relationship strategies.
An abusive relationship, however, is defined by patterns of behavior designed to gain and maintain power and control over someone. This can include physical, emotional, economic, or psychological abuse. If you're in an abusive relationship, or thinking about going back to one, your safety and well-being come first. Seek support from a trained therapist or counselor who can provide resources and guidance.
If you’re currently in an abusive relationship, seek help immediately. Trusted, confidential resources include:
National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.) – Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788.
RAINN (U.S.) – Call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or chat online for support.
Love is Respect (U.S.) – Call 1-866-331-9474 or text "LOVEIS" to 22522 for teens/young adults.
For international support, visit Domestic Violence Hotline (UK) or Domestic Violence Hotline (Canada).
If your safety is at risk, please reach out to local authorities or a trusted person for immediate help.
For more detailed information on what defines a toxic vs abusive relationship, please visit The Gottman Institute's article on defining a toxic relationship.
Trauma recovery coaching delivers results when you commit, but breakthroughs can happen faster than you think.
Clients have made breakthroughs in as little as one session. Tangible shifts in confidence, clarity, and self-trust are a few examples, especially when focusing on actionable tools and mindset shifts.
That said, the deeper transformations, like rewiring old patterns, building unshakable self-trust, and living from a place of empowerment, come from consistent, active engagement in coaching. The longer you work with a coach, the more you’ll integrate these changes into your daily life.
At KataVita Coaching, we measure results by your ability to navigate challenges with ease, trust your instincts, and create joy without guilt. Your progress is unique, but you’ll feel the difference as you build new habits and rewrite your story.